Playtime Is the Best Time: Why Parents Should Play with Their Kids More
Parenthood is a juggling act, isn’t it? Between work, chores, and trying to fit in some “me time,” your schedule is already overflowing. But somewhere in that whirlwind of responsibility, there’s one thing that often gets put on the back burner—playtime with your kids. And trust me, it’s way more important than you might think—for your children and for you.
Before you sigh and think, “I don’t have time for this,” hear me out. Play doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming, and it can actually double as a workout, a stress reliever, and a way to connect with your kids on a deeper level.
The Power of Play
Play isn't just fun and games—it’s the foundation of a child’s development. Mentally, physically, emotionally—it’s all connected. I’ve been fortunate enough to see this firsthand, thanks to years of volunteering with kids. From my time at SNAP, a program helping kids with special needs work on their motor skills, to being a Big Brother mentor to an amazing kid for the past six years, I’ve seen play transform lives.
At SNAP, I spent hours every Thursday playing with kids—working on their fine and gross motor skills with activities like throwing a ball, building obstacle courses, or even just running around outside. It was incredible to see their confidence grow week by week. And as a Big Brother, I’ve seen how consistent play can completely shift a child’s mindset. My Little hated exercise at age six—he was a die-hard video game fan. But by getting him outside as often as possible, making it fun, and leading by example, he’s now a sports-loving 12-year-old who constantly asks if we can toss a football or run around at the park. He even wants to lift weights to “get as strong as me.”
The lesson here? If you want your kids to live healthy and active lives, it starts with you. They’re watching what you do more than they’re listening to what you say.
Benefits for Kids
When kids play, they’re doing so much more than just burning off energy (though that’s a nice bonus). Play helps them develop in three major areas:
Physical Benefits
Running, jumping, climbing, and crawling—it’s all good for fine and gross motor skills. It builds muscles, improves coordination, and even enhances cardiovascular health. Plus, a physically active kid is less likely to struggle with weight-related issues later in life.
Mental Benefits
Play sparks creativity and critical thinking. Whether they’re figuring out how to build a fort or coming up with the rules for a game, they’re exercising their brains as much as their bodies.
Emotional and Social Benefits
Play teaches teamwork, empathy, and emotional regulation. Negotiating who gets to go first in tag or handling the disappointment of losing a game helps kids develop social-emotional skills they’ll carry into adulthood.
Benefits for Parents
Play isn’t just good for kids—it’s a game-changer for parents too. Think about the last time you really just played, without an agenda or a to-do list hovering in the back of your mind. If you’re like most adults, it’s probably been a while. But here’s the thing—playing keeps you young, active, and stress-free.
Stress Relief
Chasing your kids around or laughing at their wild imagination helps lighten some of the mental load you carry. Studies even show that physical activity can reduce stress by boosting endorphins, and playing with your kids is no exception.
A Natural Workout
You don’t need to slog through hours of cardio or book a HIIT session to get in shape. Running around playing tag, kicking a soccer ball, or chasing your toddler in a game of hide-and-seek doubles as a solid workout. You’re hitting your cardio goals without even realizing it!
A Stronger Connection
Playing with your kids strengthens the bond you share. They’ll remember those moments of laughter and silliness far more than the times you scrolled through your phone while they played on their own.
Turning Play Into a Priority
Now that you’re (hopefully) convinced of the magic of play, how do you fit it into a jam-packed schedule? Here are a few simple ways to make it happen:
1. Use Play as Your Workout
Who needs a treadmill when you can play freeze tag? Instead of thinking about exercise and play as separate things, combine them. A 20-minute game of chase can leave your legs burning more than any squats or lunges.
2. Make It a Part of Your Routine
Play doesn’t have to be a grand event. A quick game of catch in the backyard after dinner or a silly dance session while cooking can make a big difference. Treat it like any other task on your to-do list—schedule it in if needed.
3. Choose Activities You Both Enjoy
Find common ground. If you love basketball, shoot some hoops. If your kids are into adventure, head to a nearby trail for a hike or scavenger hunt. The goal is to make it enjoyable for everyone.
4. Invite Friends and Family
Group activities turn play into a social event. Whether it’s a family kickball game or teaming up with friends and their kids for a day at the park, involving others makes it even more fun.
5. Be Fully Present
The most important thing is to give your full attention. Put your phone down, and really be there. Your kids don’t need a fancy playdate—they just want your time and engagement.
Lead By Example (And Have Fun Doing It!)
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from working with kids for over a decade, it’s that play is more than just a pastime—it’s a building block for a healthy and happy life. And that applies to adults too.
When you play with your kids, you’re showing them that staying active is fun, not a chore. You’re modeling the kind of lifestyle you want them to have. And along the way, you’re strengthening your bond, staying fit, and giving yourself permission to laugh and be silly.
So, what are you waiting for? Lace up your sneakers, step away from your never-ending task list, and jump into the fun. Your kids won’t just love you for it—they’ll remember it forever.
Your turn to play: The next time your kids beg you to join them, say yes. Even if it’s for 10 minutes, even if it means getting a little sweaty, choose play. You might be surprised by how much better you feel.
Because at the end of the day, life is too short—and too serious—to skip out on the simple joy of playing.